Angilyn and Nate Bagley of the "Mormon Marriages" podcast interview Dr. Finlayson-Fife on intimacy, sexuality and the meaning frames or "false traditions" that limit our relational and sexual development in marriage. This is a mind-opening interview that you don't want to miss.
This podcast takes up two questions : The first question is about the impact of childhood sexual abuse and parental negligence on desire and intimacy in one woman's marriage. The second question is about a man whose wife wants him to be more sexually assertive. His wife recently acknowledged that her low desire for sex is because she doesn't find his passivity and excessive "niceness" in the sexual domain to be enticing. This good husband is trying to understand his own discomfort with the pseudo-dominance and sexual assertiveness that his wife craves, and if what she wants is actually good or destructive.
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A writer preparing an article for LDS Living on the topic of indulgent suffering asked for my thoughts on the topic. That led to this interview, which she published on her blog, Healthy Meaningful Lliving. You can also read that interview below:
KSL aired another The Mom Show interview with me on the subject of talking to your kids about sex. You can listen to it here:
From the description:
Host Lindsay Aerts talks with LDS Sex Therapist Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife about how to create a culture of openness around sex and sexuality so your kids will come to you with their questions. While sitting down with a child at a certain age to have "the birds and the bees" talk may be important, even more important may be creating a culture in your home where sex is viewed as healthy and good to be used in an appropriate way, not as shameful or bad. Our children will have natural, human sexual desire and it's our job to help them navigate those tricky emotions. Dr. Fife discusses what's appropriate to teach your kids about sex for different age levels, how to facilitate the conversations, how to still create an openness if abstinence before marriage is the goal, and whether or not it's too late to create this culture if you already have older children.
We tackle two questions submitted by listeners. The first asks about “dirty/degrading” talk during sex and the second seeks advice on teaching about sex in a positive way.