Desire

Recently, I joined Tammy Hill of the Live Your Why Podcast to discuss the meanings that keep many of us from fully experiencing the joy of our sexuality and what we can do to shift these common, but problematic meaning frames and create something better.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Jordan and Ryan of The Stoic Dad podcast to discuss stoicism, desire, productive suffering, mature masculinity, and more!

Morgan knows sexual desire, but she has deliberately repressed those feelings for so long that she is struggling to get them back. When she was younger, Morgan had a healthy curiosity about sex but felt she had crossed a line by reading romantic literature. In an effort to restore a sense of worthiness, she changed course and tried to never look back. While Morgan now tries to be sexual with Harry, her heart just isn’t in it. She finds it more intuitive to accommodate Harry than to find and express her own eroticism after so many years of trying to snuff it out. In this episode of Room for Two, Dr. Finlayson-Fife explores how Morgan’s anxiety, perfectionism, and external moral reference have limited her capacity for intimacy, and what she can do to develop a healthier relationship to her sexuality as well as a more fulfilling intimate relationship with Harry.

In this episode, Dr. Jennifer joins Courtney Anderson of the Glow Boss Podcast to answer your questions about sex. They cover everything from high libido to sexual dreams about an ex to the psychology of climaxing. Listen to hear more about: - How to integrate freedom in the sexual relationship in a committed relationship - Meaning frames that can help your sexual relationship thrive through changes in life such as the postpartum stage and aging - Navigating desire differences in your relationship

This episode is a recording of Dr. Jennifer reading an essay she wrote entitled "Let's Talk about Sex". The full episode can be found on the Breaking Down Patriarchy podcast hosted by Amy Allebest. Listen to this episode to hear more about.... - Women’s relationship to their sexuality in the context of a patriarchal society - LDS women’s ability to be choosers in the sexual realm - Cultural invalidation of women’s eroticism - Why self-hood is a stronger factor in desire than biological drive - How undermining women’s strength undermines strength in marriages, families and society

Feeling rejected by your spouse in any realm can be disheartening, but when the rejection is sexual, it can be exceptionally demoralizing experiencing. Sexual rejection is particularly potent because during arousal states the brain is highly plastic. So any emotion, good or bad, holds extra sway when it is experienced during an aroused state. In this episode of Sex Therapy 101, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Cami Hurst to answer a listener's question about how to move forward and cultivate her sexuality after years of feeling undesired and fundamentally rejected by her spouse during their 21-year mixed-orientation marriage.

In this episode, Jennifer helps Rick and Sarah see the unhealthy dynamic that has developed in their marriage and why this approval seeking is detrimental to passion. Jennifer guides Rick and Sarah to a new way of thinking, a mindset which will allow them to create a marriage where there is room for real choice and deeper intimacy.

Join Dr. Finlayson-Fife and host Arielle Finlinson of the "Ladies Talking Love" podcast (@ladies.talkinglove) to discuss what you can do to challenge unhealthy meanings that are operating in your relationship and how to create a more robust sexual relationship with your partner.

In this NEW podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Dana Dodini of the "From the Mouths of Babes" podcast (@fromthemouthsofbabespodcast) to discuss how women can take claim of their lives and desires and how doing so will help them embrace their God-given sexuality. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: * Overcoming "Good Girl" Syndrome * Claiming your identity, sexuality, and desires * Challenging cultural ideals of femininity and masculinity * Transitioning from accommodation to ownership and desire * How to best teach our children about sexuality * The importance of prioritizing your own development

In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Andrea Giles of the "Heal From Infidelity Podcast" for a candid discussion about infidelity and the opportunity it provides for growth within ourselves.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife joined Heather Frazier of the Pivot Parenting podcast to discuss our attitudes towards physical beauty and how to talk to your kids about these topics.

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife spoke in the online I Am Mom summit in March 2019 about the common misconceptions and false beliefs that can undermine sexual identity and desire for mothers. Listen to this recording to learn more about: - Maintaining a sense of self in motherhood - Challenging the message that to be a good mother you must needless and wantless - Questions to ask yourself to strengthen your partnership and sexual relationship