Conflict, heartbreaks, and disillusionments can shake our faith in marriage. But our struggles are not signs of failure, they are part of the soul work we are here for. Marriage can refine our souls, but it requires our willingness to rise above our self-justifications—it requires our faith. This is not just challenging work, it is sacred work.
SYNOPSIS
Sexual intimacy can be experienced as a pleasant pastime, a physical need, a reward, a threat, a bargaining chip, a source of frustration, a well of shame—even a necessary evil. Far less understood is its potential to be something much more: a source of deep joy, spiritual transcendence, and communion with another soul.
In a society drawn to quick fixes and surface-level advice, That We Might Have Joy offers something deeper—an honest look at how sexual intimacy acts as both diagnosis and cure for what ails modern marriage.
With clarity and compassion, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife reframes sexuality not as a threat to faith, but as an expression of it. She shows us how sexual intimacy can reveal the truth of a relationship—and, for those willing to confront that truth, it can become the starting point of something far more soul-sustaining.
That We Might Have Joy is a call to greater integrity—within our marriages, our faith, and ourselves. It invites us to live more honestly, love more deeply, and discover what becomes possible when we heal the division between our spiritual and sexual selves.
Testimonials
“That We Might Have Joy is a great gift—certainly to those of us who are in a love relationship, but to all who yearn to give equal honoring to both the sacred and the sensual in our lives and to realize they are partners indeed. Jennifer’s insightful book shines new light on the truth that God is love and love is godly.”
“That We Might Have Joy is a call to repent—to tell the truth, to look eros in the eye, to be the bodies that we are, to promise our souls, to break open our hearts, to brave intimacy. It’s a call to live, to die, to love. Don’t wait. Repent. Live. Love.
“This book is a revelation. Dr. Jennifer weaves together faith, intimacy, and personal growth with such clarity and compassion. Every page invites you to see yourself more fully and to create deeper, more joyful connections in your relationships. It’s both grounding and liberating—I found myself highlighting nearly every paragraph and will be sharing it with my loved ones and with my clients.”
“Sex is good! It can be great! And in her book, Jennifer Finlayson-Fife counsels married Latter-day Saint couples how to make it that way. There hasn’t been a better blending of the sensual with the spiritual since the Old Testament’s Song of Solomon.”