Differentiation

In this NEW podcast episode [“Differentiation and Divorce”], Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Hyo North of the Leading With Grace podcast to talk about how differentiation can help those working through the complexities of separation or divorce navigate forward with wisdom and maturity. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: * Separation and divorce * Collusive alliances and how they keep us stuck * Differentiation as it relates to divorce * Forgiveness * Forging capacity in the face of crisis You can listen to the full episode here: https://www.finlayson-fife.com/podcasts/conversations-with-dr-jennifer/post/divorce-and-differentiation or by clicking the link in our profile. GIVEAWAY: Hyo North, host of Leading with Grace, is generously gifting a one year Room for Two subscription to one lucky listener! To enter the giveaway, follow @leadingwithgrace and leave a comment with your favorite quote or idea from the episode!

In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Sadi Rogers of Lift + Love to discuss the unique challenges faced by LGBTQ+ Latter-day Saints and the opportunity in the struggle to forge deeper self-acceptance and sustaining inner strength. Listen to the full episode to learn more about: *Healthy ways to address the discrepancy between societal norms and divergent realities *Finding peace in painful circumstances *How love is the pathway to truth *Communicating effectively with those who believe differently *Stages of spiritual development *Grief and loss as inherent to life *The silver lining that comes from not fitting the mold of a group

When we take ourselves too seriously, we can snuff out the playful eros energy that keeps relationships vibrant and alive. After all, the happiest marriages thrive, rather than just survive. They are joyful because each person feels free to fully be themselves—without the need to pretend or contort themselves to earn approval. Making room for two people to be true to themselves and the relationship is where the real magic happens. I recently met with Dr. Jerry and Tammie Duggar of the Simple 7 Lifestyle Podcast to discuss how couples can find more happiness and a deeper sense of freedom in their relationships, and how the quality of our relationships impacts both our mental and physical health.

In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins the hosts of the Barbie Does Dating Podcast for a discussion about dating! This episode covers how singles can differentiate in their relationships, how to recognize and overcome a fear of commitment, and healthy ways to approach the nuanced topic of sexual intimacy and compatibility while in celibate dating relationships.

In this episode of Room for Two, Dr. Finlayson-Fife helps Nate and Nora see how they have each handled their fear and anxiety in destructive ways – Nora becoming rigid and Nate turning to condescension. These strategies are compelling because they are an easy escape from the intensity and discomfort of marital growth and expansion. Dr. Finlayson-Fife explains that the path to more stability and connection in their relationship is differentiation – learning to tolerate the aloneness and invalidation that comes when you love someone who sees and experiences the world differently than you do.

In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Sarah Brewer of the Overcome Pornography For Good Podcast to discuss how taking responsibility for your own life and chocies will increase your capacity to love and be loved.

In this NEW podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Tony Overbay of The Virtual Couch Podcast (@tonyoverbay) to discuss differentiation, self-validation, and the vital role of self-confrontation in intimate relationships.

Rick and Sarah are really good at hiding. Rick hides behind his nice guy persona—he has learned through experience that if he keeps Sarah comfortable enough, he will maximize the chances of getting sex. So, he skirts around the truth and keeps his honest thoughts to himself in an attempt to keep the boat from rocking. Sarah has fully bought into this dynamic and pushes for Rick’s accommodation. She knows the part to play, plays it well, and takes refuge in fading into the background and letting Rick take care of her. While this one-up/one-down dynamic has created an amicable enough marriage, it hasn’t created much passion or intimacy. In this episode of Room for Two, Dr. Finlayson-Fife meets again with Rick and Sarah to discuss how they can create a more equal and strong partnership by both bringing more courage and honesty to their relationship.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Dr. Corey Allan of Sexy Marriage Radio for a frank discussion about resentment in marriage and how we can avoid this common pitfall by becoming more honest with ourselves and learning to not rely on our spouses for validation.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife was interview on the Faith Matters podcast to discuss the tension between boundaries and belonging when it comes to returning to in-person church following the pandemic.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins colleague Natasha Helfer to discuss Dr. Schnarch's teachings and legacy. They take up -Differentiation theory and Dr. David Schnarch's impact in the field of therapy. -Differentiation and how it's related to strong relationships and a solid sense of self. -How to better manage anxiety within your relationship and family. -Common relational and sexual challenges facing those who have grown up in a religiously conservative culture

In honor of David Schnarch, professional colleague Dr. Dave Jenkins, interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife about -How she came to find Dr. Schnarch's work -Personal growth that has come from her experience as a therapist and coach. -The value of seeking for truth even when it's disorienting. -How her practice has been influenced by Dr. David Schnarch's life and work. -The importance of differentiation in human development and creating peace within oneself and healthy relationships