Learn the Art of Loving and gain more confidence in yourself as an intimate parter.  Forge a relationship with your spouse filled with mutual pleasure and genuine connection. 

This course explores elements of LDS culture that undermine male sexual integrity and confidence while underscoring theological principles that support embodied desire and loving sexuality.

SOLD OUT.  If you add your email address to the waiting list on the Art of Loving Course page, we will notify you..:

  • If/when tickets become available for this event
  • If an additional Art of Loving workshop is added to the calendar
  • When the self-paced online course based on this workshop is available.

Join the Art of Loving course, designed for LDS men, to become more confident in yourself as an intimate partner. This course unpacks the damaging messages offered to men about masculinity and sexuality that work against sexual self-confidence, trustworthiness, and mutual desire.  

The LIVE online Winter 2021 course will be taking place on the following Saturdays at 5 PM Mountain Time: 

February 6th, 13th, 21st, and 27th, 

March 6th, 13th, 20th, and April 3rd.

Each session will be approximately 2 hours.


Live participants will not only access life-changing material, but will be able to ask questions and get feedback from Dr. Finlayson-Fife throughout the course, along with peer and instructor support via a private FB participant group. Dr. Finlayson-Fife will also review homework and offer general feedback during instructional sessions.

Be among the first to access this newly developed and exceptional course!


This course is perfect for those who are:

  • Unsatisfied in their current sexual and
    marital relationship.
  • Frustrated in the loneliness of not being desired.
  • Struggling with pornography use.
  • Confused about the compatibility of
    sex and masculinity with spirituality and goodness.
  • Wanting more confidence in their own desirability.
  • Hoping to be at greater peace with their sexuality.

What you get with this LIVE workshop:

  • Live interaction with Dr. Finlayson-Fife
  • Ability to ask questions and have her respond to your specific challenges
  • Access to the recorded course based on this workshop for a minimum of a year
  • Online FB support group with peer and instructor support
  • 6 months of access to office hours with Dr. Finlayson-Fife

"As a wife to a participant of this course, I highly recommend! I have seen so much growth in my husband and positive changes in many aspects of his life—-and I didn’t even have any complaints beforehand!"

By committing to this course, and working through its concepts, you can address your role in unsatisfying sexual interactions, change sexual behaviors at odds with your integrity, and grow into a more desirable, confident sexual partner. 

After years of counseling men and women, Dr. Finlayson-Fife has uncovered the beliefs that work against men's capacity for intimate sex, as well as the concepts and behaviors that foster personal strength, trustworthiness, and deeper capacity for sexual connection.

By working through the life-changing concepts in the Art of Loving course, not only will you be a source of strength in your emotional and sexual relationship, but you will experience deeper peace with yourself and sexuality.

Reviews From Course Participants

  • "...The class was amazing, it was raw, and it was real!!!!  I loved hearing from other men that have experienced similar challenges that I have experienced..."

    — E. J.
  • "My husband is taking your men's course (the art of loving) right now. ..We've bought ALL your courses and love what you teach.  My husband came to me a couple of weeks ago and told me he realizes he's been emotionally enmeshed with me and apologized for all the sexual demands he's made on me--this coming from a 25-year marriage riddled with the effects of his porn use. Yeah!! 

    Your courses are worth the investment because of what is gained in your unique, wise approach that is readily effective--unlike the expensive therapy we've also been through. Thank you seems inadequate"

    — S.S.
  • "My emotions, my perspective, my understanding of my sense of self, the reality of my eroticism/ sexuality, the immature dynamics I have co-created in my partnership are all shifting.  Through these classes, I have so much more clarity (which is not always enjoyable) but always helpful and real.   To draw an analogy, I have as much gratitude to you for the gift to view myself and my situation as I did for the surgeon who performed my eye surgeries.  The gift of sight in both real and figuratively is life changing and so precious.  

    I see that I have a choice and an internal locus of control.  I have had years of wishing, hoping, praying to change the sexual dynamics of my partnership without ever understanding that I can get out of gridlock. It never even occurred to me that I wasn't offering sex that my wife would find desirable.  No one ever tells you to even ask.  I appreciate that my self-confrontation is what can lead me to grow and to change thoughts, patterns, and the lived reality of my sexual partnership.  I see for the first time what it really means to understand internalizing sexual shame, I understand and recognize fear, I understand immaturity and dishonesty to self. I understand that all of these things I can handle and that the unnamed anxiety I have been feeling for years can be calmed and can be within my control. ...

    I can't say enough good about the work you are doing and honestly feel a deep sense of gratitude to the commitment you have to us men who are striving for better."

    — R.L.
  • "It may seem ironic that a woman is teaching men about male sexuality, but to those that are familiar with her work, you'll quickly realize this course is no cakewalk. Dr. Finlayson-Fife's material and teaching style is not for the faint at heart, or for men that want fleeting tips on how to improve the physical dimension of sex alone. It's for men that want to develop a strong inner-self and cultivate a deeper capacity to love. Dr. Finlayson-Fife has challenged me to shine a light and examine the dusty corners of myself, the areas I've been ignoring or choosing not to deal with until this point. It's made me uncomfortable and frustrated at times, but I've seen already how much my sexual relationship with my wife has improved. It's also helped me grow to be a better man, husband, and father. "Art of Loving" is an apt name for this course."

    — D.P.
  • "For so many years I have struggled to understand what was wrong in my marriage.  I was exhausted by the constant rejection, resentment, and frustration.  After taking this course, I can see the pieces of the puzzle, and how and why they fit together.  As I have learned and focused on the powerful concepts Jennifer teaches in this class, I have felt less shame, been more honest, kind, and understanding to both myself and to my wife.  I can see what part I’ve played in our struggles, and what I need to work on to invite more intimacy into our marriage.  I wish I could have taken this course 20 years ago, but so happy to have it now!"

    — B. E.
  • "Jennifer, I am so grateful for the work that you do.  I was just about at the point in my life where I had accepted that I would be in a loveless lonely marriage for my time here on Earth. Now [after taking the Art of Loving course] I can see a path to a better way.  And not just a better marriage, but an AMAZING one, filled with love, connection, and intimacy."

    — B.C.