Single Moms Thriving

In this episode, Molly from Divorced Mormon Mom Podcast interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife and discusses the challenges of being a divorced, faithful Mormon who is committed to keeping covenants and also has experienced a sexual relationship before. Molly asks about common concerns and questions including fears with sex, complexities of dating after divorce, and sexual compatibility.

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Originally aired on February 2, 2019.

Differing Views and Beliefs Part 2

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife speaks with Sherrae Phelps of Ten Thousand Hours of Writing Podcast about how to respect the differing views and beliefs of others as well as how to approach difficult or uncomfortable conversations about religious topics. To hear more from Sherrae Phelps, visit her at www.tenthousandhoursofwriting.com.

"It’s easy to be threatened by change and to want to call it evil. Our first instinct to something that is foreign or with something we don’t know is that it must be bad. It’s just in our DNA to do that. And I think it is really important to be very cautious to write something or someone off before we give it a thoughtful integrity based response. ”

-Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

We are threatened by change and things that are different. We are threatened when someone disagrees with, diminishes, or challenges our view. It throws us off balance. It feels like a personal attack. And that fear can distort our ability to see the situation accurately. It can also, if we coddle it, limit our ability to respond with moral integrity and courage.

Think of Fiddler on the Roof. How often were Tevye’s beliefs challenged? And not by outsiders, but by his daughters whom he loved and cared for deeply. He was constantly wading through the legitimate challenge of finding a way to love and embrace his daughters and his beliefs. If we’re not careful, the fear that arises when our beliefs are challenged can cause us to respond with emotional immaturity. That poor response can damage relationships and erode our character. But if we can ground ourselves and respond with moral integrity, then those moments can become pivotal milestones in our lives.

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Talk to Your Kids About Sex - Shame Free

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Lindsay Aerts from The Mom Show on KSL Radio to discuss how you can help teach your kids about sex without making them feel like it's a bad thing or that they are bad for being curious.

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Originally aired March 2017.

Why the Sex Talk is More Than Just a Talk

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Lindsay Aerts from The Mom Show on KSL Radio to discuss how to create a culture of openness around sex and sexuality so your kids will be more likely to adopt healthy views of their own. And don't worry if you have older kids, Dr. Fife says it's never too late to start implementing healthy attitudes around sex, or repairing any well-intended missteps.

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How to Talk to Your Kids About Sex

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Lindsay Aerts from The Mom Show on KSL Radio to discuss how to talk with your kids about sex and abuse. To hear more from Lindsay, you can follow her on Instagram @kslmomshow .

To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our website, check out our course page, and take a look at our upcoming events.

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Originally aired June 30, 2019.

Differing Views and Beliefs Part 1

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife speaks with Sherrae Phelps of Ten Thousand Hours of Writing Podcast about how to respect the differing views and beliefs of others as well as how to approach difficult or uncomfortable conversations about religious topics. To hear more from Sherrae Phelps, visit her at www.tenthousandhoursofwriting.com.

Some of the questions addressed include:

Are all conversations discussing conflicting beliefs valuable to engage in? What about controversial conversations? Is there value in listening to ideas that scare us? Are there times when it is morally courageous to give others platforms to speak and other times when it would do more damage than good?

To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our website, check out our course page, and take a look at our upcoming events.

Is it Ever Virtuous to Submit?

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife speaks with Sherrae Phelps of Ten Thousand Hours of Writing Podcast about the topic of submission. In this episode you will learn more about what submission means and how it can be driven either by fear or moral courage. To hear more from Sherrae Phelps, visit her at www.tenthousandhoursofwriting.com.

“When submission is a virtue, it’s an active choice to yield to something because you think it will create the greater good. It’s not driven by fear; it’s driven by moral courage.”

– Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

Sherrae Phelp’s Thoughts About This Episode:

The word submission can accurately be used to describe weak behavior, but submission can also describe virtuous behavior. 

I’ll be honest; I don’t like the word submission. I don’t like the meanings that are typically associated with the word submission. When I picture someone submitting, I think of an act that weakens and makes one vulnerable. But I do think there can be submissive behaviors that are virtuous, and that type of submission is a little harder to identify and define because the negative meanings are so prevalent.

In this interview with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife, she explains what submission looks like as a virtue and what it looks like as a weakness.

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Thinking and Acting For Yourself

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife speaks with Sherrae Phelps of Ten Thousand Hours of Writing Podcast about the topic of thinking for ourselves. In this episode you will learn more about how to make your own decisions based on your integrity and moral compass rather than approval of others. To hear more from Sherrae Phelps, visit her at www.tenthousandhoursofwriting.com.

“One of the things that interferes with our ability to think for ourselves is our need and desire for approval—our desire for other people to acknowledge or validate what we do. The more we depend on that, the more it will distract us from our own internal compass. You don’t want to cut out the voices of other people—-that would be immoderate in the other direction. But you don’t want the voices of other people to distract you from your own compass, because your own compass is an important source of knowledge and this is a gift to us.”

–Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

 Within many religions, the idea of being a disciple is encouraged and honored and viewed as a pathway for growth, wisdom, and for spiritual and emotional development. But when discipleship is misused it encourages dependency rather than independence and in turn, limits one’s growth and development and wisdom.

Discipleship is about acting not about being acted upon.

In this interview, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife talks about what it means to be a disciple that thinks and acts for themselves.

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Indulgent Suffering

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife speaks with Sherrae Phelps of Ten Thousand Hours of Writing Podcast about the topic of indulgent suffering. In this episode you will learn more about how to act out of virtue and integrity and how to let go of immature thought patterns that can be harmful to personal development. To hear more from Sherrae Phelps and Ten Thousand Hours of Writing Podcast, visit her at www.tenthousandhoursofwriting.com.

Often to determine if something is right or good or God’s will, we use pain, suffering, and sacrifice for a measuring stick. While I do not disagree that sometimes virtuous acts can be difficult and inconvenient, I think we are missing the mark when we use “pain and suffering” as a way to determine if something is right or wrong.

It’s like we have this mental checklist. Is it inconvenient? Check. Is it the opposite of what I want? Check. Is it going to require sacrifice? Check. Is it going to cause suffering? Check. Is it going to be hard? Check. Conclusion: This must be good, right, and God’s will. But this is a flawed and limited way to discern to discern what is good and right.

In this interview, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife talks about this indulgent suffering that as Christians we sometimes value, and discuss the moral development required to act instead with virtue and integrity.

To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our website, check out our course page, and take a look at our upcoming events.

Forgiving Others

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife is interviewed by Sherrae Phelps on her podcast Ten Thousand Hours of Writing. They discuss the different “versions” of forgiveness and how to forgive in a way that is healing and not harmful. To hear more from Sherrae Phelps and her podcast, you can visit her website at https://tenthousandhoursofwriting.com/.

The main question that this episode explores is this:  What are some misconceptions about forgiveness? And in what ways is counterfeit forgiveness, or “doormat forgiveness”, hurtful, harmful, and destructive?

To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our website, check out our course page, and take a look at our upcoming events.

How to Create and Maintain a Sexual Sense of Self in Motherhood

In this episode, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is interviewed by holistic nutritionist and eating psychology coach, Stephanie Webb all about how to create and maintain a sexual sense of self while in the throes of motherhood. You can hear more from Stephanie by visiting her website, EatConfident.co, or by following her on her Instagram, @stephanie__webb.

To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our website, check out our course page, and take a look at our upcoming events.

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This episode originally aired on February 12, 2019.