In an interview with Rachel Nielson, podcaster and blogger for the 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms, Dr. Finlayson-Fife discusses three common ways that women’s mindsets around sex can decrease their desire to answer the common question we hear of "What happened to my sex drive, and what can I do to get it back?" Listen to the podcast on 3 in 30’s website by clicking below:
“If you’re going to be someone who is interested in intimacy, you have to be accepting of your body as it is. If you’re going to be capable of doing that, you have to forge a kind of meaningful self-acceptance and self-compassion.”
From an interview with Monica at About Progress, posted yesterday.
Angilyn and Nate Bagley of the "Mormon Marriages" podcast interview Dr. Finlayson-Fife on intimacy, sexuality and the meaning frames or "false traditions" that limit our relational and sexual development in marriage. This is a mind-opening interview that you don't want to miss.
" ... As much as many marriages have modernized in the church and function in more egalitarian ways relative to a generation ago, I am still struck by how much the dynamic of inequality persists in many LDS marriages. While immaturity in marriage and the challenges to selfhood that marriage evokes are not problems specific to Mormons, the institutionalized support for glorified under-functioning in women is indeed a Mormon cultural problem. We need to stop acting like real strength in women undermines marriages and mothering. We need to stop embracing impotence in women as a kind of goodness, much in the way that we regard children as good—innocent, powerless, and harmless. We strip women of their strength and autonomy in the gender narrative and then ask men to take care of them. This may create an ethic of dependency and deference in women, and therefore potentially less overt conflict in marriages. However it does not, in my experience, create strong people, strong families, or passionate, stable marriages." -- Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
Read more here : http://rationalfaiths.com/lets-talk-sex/