Partner Desirability and High/Low Desire Dynamics

In this podcast episode with Tony Overbay, Dr. Finlayson-Fife discusses what to do if you no longer find your partner physically attractive, as well as how to communicate in a relationship where one partner has a high desire for intimacy and one has a low desire. She also engages in a discussion about how to deal with deception within a relationship (ex. pornography or infidelity). Also, find out what men do that Dr. Finlayson-Fife says will result in them being “toast!”

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Marriage Laboratory Podcast - Higher Desire Partner

In this episode, the Marriage Laboratory interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife in an episode focusing on the high desire partner in a sexual relationship. “This can be a tricky position to be in because you can feel very stuck and powerless to improve your situation. Manipulating, coercing, and pressuring may get you what you want in the short term, but have lots of negative consequences in a relationship.”

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Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist, Part 23

In this new podcast, I respond to three new questions, all coming from men, covering topics of intimacy after tragic loss, disparity in desire, and becoming a more confident lover.

May 2019 Update: is currently down, but you can play the audio recording here:


Angilyn and Nate Bagley of the "Mormon Marriages" podcast interview Dr. Finlayson-Fife on intimacy, sexuality and the meaning frames or "false traditions" that limit our relational and sexual development in marriage.  This is a mind-opening interview that you don't want to miss. 

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Ask A Mormon Sex Therapist : Part 22


This podcast takes up two questions : The first question is about the impact of childhood sexual abuse and parental negligence on desire and intimacy in one woman's marriage.  The second question is about a man whose wife wants him to be more sexually assertive.  His wife recently acknowledged that her low desire for sex is because she doesn't find his passivity and excessive "niceness" in the sexual domain to be enticing.  This good husband is trying to understand his own discomfort with the pseudo-dominance and sexual assertiveness that his wife craves, and if what she wants is actually good or destructive.

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May 2019 Update: is currently down, but you can play the audio recording here:

Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist, Part 17

Answering two questions submitted from listeners about low desire in men -- the first from a woman in a nearly-sexless marriage, and the second from a man who reports difficulty being attracted to his wife's body as they grow older.

May 2019 Update: is currently down, but you can play the audio recording here: