Partner Desirability and High/Low Desire Dynamics

In this podcast episode with Tony Overbay, Dr. Finlayson-Fife discusses what to do if you no longer find your partner physically attractive, as well as how to communicate in a relationship where one partner has a high desire for intimacy and one has a low desire. She also engages in a discussion about how to deal with deception within a relationship (ex. pornography or infidelity). Also, find out what men do that Dr. Finlayson-Fife says will result in them being “toast!”

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Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist Part 20


In which we take on questions about garments and intimacy, about the difficulty of communicating sexual needs, and about dependency in marriage.

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May 2019 Update: is currently down, but you can play the audio recording here:

Podcast: Approval-Seeking vs. Goodness


Monica from "It's All About Progress" Blog interviews me on the topic of Goodness---How creating goodness is different from approval-seeking, as well as perspectives on how to develop and discern what is good when faced with real and imagined pressures. 

"Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife ... shares how to discover what it is we truly want, how to reconcile our desires with what we believe we "should" do with our lives, and how to better take responsibility for our choices, especially when faced with difficult ones. 
Jennifer also offers how to live up to our core desires, more fully cultivate our gifts, and better tolerate the internal and external push-back we may experience as we develop true goodness within ourselves and in our lives. 

Like her past episode on About Progress (on Perfectionism), this interview is one worth listening to several times to fully glean Jennifer's wisdom.  There are many ways to apply this discussion to parenthood, marriage, "control freaks," "victims," and those who live their lives based on others' approval."


An audio recording of the interview can be found here:

Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist Part 18

Responses to three more listener questions.  The first question is about a sexually entitled husband who is unresponsive to his wife’s wishes, the second question is about the use of vibrators, and the third question is from a person navigating a mixed-orientation marriage

May 2019 Update: is currently down, but you can play the audio recording here:

Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist, Part 16

In the 16th installment of the “Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist” series I respond to two more questions submitted from listeners. One focuses on nudity and modesty, and the second question comes from a person in a really tough position in a sexless marriage in which discussion and negotiation of sexual relations are off limits.

May 2019 Update: is currently down, but you can play the audio recording here: