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For Couples
Strengthening Your Relationship

Strengthening Your Relationship

Take advantage of this opportunity to understand the recurring and unsatisfying patterns in your marriage as well as actionable steps you can take to heal your divisions, create more peace, and experience more joy together.

For Couples
Enhancing Sexual Intimacy

Enhancing Sexual Intimacy

Join this course to understand the underlying causes of sexual dissatisfaction, overcome barriers to sexual and relational openness, and participate in exercises that increase your capacity and desire for intimacy.

For Women
The Art of Desire

The Art of Desire

Join this exceptional course to understand and challenge cultural false traditions that inhibit sexual desire, while learning a new, life-expanding perspective on desire and its relationship to your personal development and self-confidence.

For Men
The Art of Loving

The Art of Loving

Join the Art of Loving online course to challenge cultural messages that inhibit your capacity for love, intimacy and sexual integrity.  With these powerful concepts, you will address your role in unsatisfying sexual interactions while becoming a more open-hearted, desirable spouse.

For Parents
How To Talk To Your Kids About Sex

How To Talk To Your Kids About Sex

Join this course to become a wiser mentor to your children around their God-given sexuality.  Each lesson helps you teach your child navigate internal and external sexual pressures while remaining true to their highest values, at each developmental stage. 

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Introducing Mini-Courses

These NEW, information-packed, mini-courses are perfect for those who are short on time but still want access to the life and marriage changing insight that Dr. Finlayson-Fife provides. 

Each course was designed to have maximum impact in minimal time and offers enrollees an easy and quick introduction to Dr. Finlayson-Fife and her work.

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Room For Two Coaching Podcast

Listen To Real Couples’ Coaching with Dr. Finlayson-Fife.

Step into the marital stories of couples facing challenges similar to your own. Learn from Dr. Jennifer how to understand and address your own intimate challenges!


What participants are saying...

My life and marriage has changed incredibly for good. Recently my husband teared up in bed because he was so overwhelmed and happy with how our relationship is moving forward. ... Bless him. It has taken me 38 years to choose him, and to own my sexuality. This happened surprisingly quickly once true principles were introduced to me. Those life-changing events came through you and the course I signed up for. Life is good. I don't know how to thank you.

R.L.

This podcast [Room for Two] has been absolutely transformational for me. I started 3 weeks ago listening and already I have been able to shift my mindset and behavior to make some significant progress in my relationship with my wife. I have been able to experience more joy and connection than ever. Thank you!!"  -- Posted on FB, used with permission 

 "I’ve listened to each episode more than one time through and I LOVE them! To say they are about sex and intimacy is misleading. They are more about how to become a whole person. A whole person in relation to yourself and in a relationship. Such valuable insights and help for me as I work on these things in myself.-- A.F.

Room for Two Listeners

I just wanted to write and thank you for developing these programs. My wife and I finished your Relationship Course and are currently listening to your Sexuality Course. We are celebrating 14 years of marriage in March.  I can honestly say I have never felt closer to my wife. We had massive breakthroughs while taking your Relationship Course. I was able to identify my losing strategies and my wife has finally given herself fully to me, no more walls. These last few weeks have been some of the best of our marriage. We are finally communicating honestly and openly. Thank you again! You have two new fans!

A.H.

Please let Jennifer know that ... we were able to move past the gridlock we were experiencing when we listened to an episode on Room for Two!  We related so much with one of the couples and it was like, "duh!"  there it is...that makes so much sense, why couldn't we see that!  

Please let her know that we think Room for Two is an absolutely brilliant idea to help couples learn from other couples.  It really does accelerate the process of self and couple development!  Jennifer is so effective and brilliant in how she unravels the complex couple challenges compassionately and with tender humor (couldn't happen to a better guy, lol)!  I am forever grateful for her and her work!  It has literally saved our marriage!  We are hard core fans!

C.P.

This podcast [Room for Two] is a gold mine! The insight, the wisdom, the clarity, the vulnerability is life changing. In our marriage, we have been able to hit codependency right on the head thanks for Dave and Carly. Thank your Dave and Carly for your vulnerability. You have changed our lives. Jennifer has explained the role of codependency in our lives so profoundly. Episode 20 was the most impactful episode for us yet, we are starting to see wild changes in our lives that are finally aligning with what our vision is. Such a wonderful resource Jennifer, we are so grateful for this. Thank you so much!

A.C.

Jennifer, I have spent about an hour a day with you for a few months now.  I've geeked out on your podcasts and am currently taking 2 of your classes.  I can't get enough of your wisdom and world view.  You have elevated my way of life, my own grounding and believe in myself, and made me better able to love.  Once you realize you have control over yourself only, you realize you don't have to be reactive at all.  SO FREEING AND PROFOUND.  So even though I don't actually know you, I feel like I do.  you are the highlight of my commute, my lunch break, my up-all-night-to-wrap-presents time.  You have been there for me and are doing amazing things for my life.  I truly thank you.

T.S.

What an an amazing talent you have of framing sex, sexuality, and sexual relationships in a positive way that empowers me and gives me hope and courage to teach my children about sex in a way that will bless and enrich their lives. Based on the things I have learned from this course I have already changed the dynamics of my conversations with my children.

K.H.H.

"...Over the past 9 months, we have listened to all of your podcasts and taken both of your couples' courses. They have done more for us than I ever thought was possible. And not just the relationship, but for us as individuals as well.  (The concepts taught of self-validating and self-confronting have been so empowering, it’s hard to describe.) 

And still, after all I’ve heard and learned, the Art of Loving men’s course has been the best of all. It’s been one of the most uplifting, hope filled, face-smacking experience I’ve ever had. Learning that my desires, wants, passions and identity are not things that need to be hidden or shamed, has given me the courage to open up---To be honest with [my wife] in a way I didn't think was possible. The more open and honest about who I am, the less power and appeal the destructive behavior has had. ... The burdens so long carried have become lighter. I still have far to go but finally seeing a path makes me smile and cry at the same time. It’s the toughest, most joyful thing I’ve ever done. Being completely open can be a butt-kicker. But I can feel the difference and [my wife] can see the difference.

J.T.

It was three years ago today that I purchased your relationship course ... I was hooked, so moved onto the AOD course, then an AOD retreat, then the intimacy course!  So much appreciation for you and your work, it has been life (and marriage) saving!

C.P.

Thank you for making our life SO much better!!!  You are a hero of mine! I have loved all of your courses - you have been such a blessing in my life!! Thank you!! 

S.S.

I recently listened to the [podcast] episode Sexuality and Happiness with Andy Proctor. When you were talking about the do's and don'ts of healthy sexuality, you mentioned coming to a place of gratitude for our embodiment and sexuality.  It totally made me cry as I realized that is exactly what I have come to feel. As one who was terrified of my sexuality and thought it was an evil part of me, your words and teachings have helped me change and reframe these unhealthy thoughts into more productive ones. Now, I can honestly say I am so grateful for my sexuality and for the goodness it brings to my life and my marriage. Without your podcasts and courses, I would still be living in sexual shame and my marriage would not be thriving. Thank you!!

Course participant and podcast listener

Honestly this podcast [Room for Two] is amazing ... [I]t leaves you without an excuse to confront all immaturity.

Each episode is like opening a window inch by inch on a sunny, cold winter day. Like the cold breeze rushing in, Jennifer’s feedback to the couples’ makes you uncomfortable, but in the end you’re gaining more light, and more insight to have a warm marriage where you’ll want to stay.

Room for Two Podcast Subscriber

I just wanted to say thank you for all that you do to teach people about having better relationships and being their best selves. I have never listened to an expert before that I hung on every word, and have never once thought "that is close but a little off from what I think is true." I feel like I am a better person and better disciple as I listen to your podcasts. Thank you!!!!!

V.E.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife is pretty much my new hero. I just found her a month ago and bought 3 of her courses and have been going through them and my mind has absolutely been blown and forever changed. I feel like I've had a complete paradigm shift, more than I've ever had in my entire life!!!!

A.W.

This year has been infinitely better because of the growth and learning I have been blessed to discover through your teaching!  From the bottom of my heart, thank you for what you're doing!!!

K.D.R.

Thank you for developing this class [the Art of Desire] and making it available.  I've been talking about it to my friends and encouraging them to check out your courses and workshops.  I am really learning so much and am so grateful.

E.K.

I purchased the Relationship Course this December and have been thrilled with the material presented.  The classroom format is fantastic. ... Jennifer invites an honesty that has helped me shift in an area that I have felt overwhelmingly stuck. There is goodness in this course that has influenced me to see, be, and do better.  Thank you.

J.M.

The interview with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife about wholehearted stage 3 sex was quite literally life changing. We were both trying to get somewhere together, not knowing how, nor what or where that somewhere was. We were both getting frustrated. Then we listened to that interview and discussed the stage in which we commonly engaged in during sex, and it all clicked. We both finally got each other, and knew exactly what we wanted to create together. We finally had the same destination. My walls finally fell, and we've been in heaven since. We've never been closer. So, thank you for giving us the tools we've need to improve our relationship the way we have been.

Podcast Listener

We just finished your two couples courses last week. They have been remarkably helpful to us. When my wife purchased them, I was skeptical. I just told her yesterday that this was the best money we've ever spent. Thank you so much for your insight and wisdom. Your work has made a huge difference in our marriage, and we are grateful.

K.J.

When I bought the [Art of Loving] course, I got it as a way to appease my wife so that she would buy the women's course and fix her "problems" with sex. ... I thought if she would just be more interested, it would solve our problems. 
I cannot emphasize enough how wrong I was.  It was my need for her validation and the constant pressure I put on her that was the problem.  When JFF explained that to me, it absolutely rocked me to my core.  I saw it so clearly, I was the problem all along.  It was hard, but I accepted it and ultimately embraced it.  When my wife saw the change, she cautiously began to change as well.  She responded to the positive changes I was making and it was great---hard, but great. 

I have taken many excellent courses in my life. No course has changed my life more than this one has. The course isn't just about sex, it's about seeing yourself as a man in a different way.   It made me notice myself for maybe the first time and challenged me to take ownership of my feelings and my life. 

Our sex life is infinitely better now, not because of some special sex technique I learned, but because I'm better.  Because I'm a better man, my wife feels free to be herself and own her sexuality.  I'm free to be myself as well, not constantly behaving in an inauthentic way in order to get her to have sex. 

Things aren't perfect of course; I'm working on myself every day, but this course has made an unbelievable difference in my life and I'm so grateful for it.


C.D. Written on Facebook, used with permission.

Jennifer you are a breath of fresh air. Your understanding of people and their challenges in their relationships is so refreshing, wise, and needed---particularly in my life. I have been looking for your kind of guidance for a very long time and thankfully a friend, who I'm sure was inspired, put me on to your website. Im so grateful for your study and lifelong pursuit to get where you are today.  I am hopeful that your new podcast [Room for Two] and your Art of Desire Course will help me get into a better frame of mind to take charge of my life and ultimately create a better marriage, relationship and friendship with my husband. Thank you Jennifer for being you and for how you see the world.  I am better for listening to your wisdom.

W.S.

A year ago this week, my husband and I bought the Strengthening Your Marriage course. We went through the entirety of its contents (lectures and assignments) over the course of a few months. It has truly been life changing; assuming that one of Jennifer's assistants is reading this and not Jennifer herself, please tell her from us that her work is absolutely extraordinary. I did my undergraduate in Family Studies at BYU and started a Master's degree in Marriage, Family and Human Development, and even with my educational background, I found her presentation to be ground breaking and life altering, both within the context of my marriage as well as my life views and perspectives. I cannot thank her enough for her years of study, work, and utilization of her unique skillset and brilliance in this field to change my life (and the lives of so many) for good.

H.S.

I just wanted to say thanks so much for all you do.  My wife and I have gotten so much value out of your podcasts, your posts, your Facebook group and the classes we've purchased.  Our sexual relationship has improved, our ability to be open and experience deeper levels of real intimacy with each other has improved, our marriage as a whole has improved.  You have been a big part of that. I am so glad my wife discovered you and started having me listen.  So glad I decided to allow myself to work through the discomfort for the sake of real growth.  Thank you, thank you, thank you from the bottom of our hearts.  You make a difference.  

T.C.

I want to say thank you so much for the work you are doing.  It has blessed my life in ways that I feel incapable of expressing.  The changes I have had to make have not been easy, but they feel worthwhile and purposeful.  

All of my relationships are healthier in great part from the things I have learned from your classes and podcasts.  My "frame" for looking at the world, and parenting, and marriage and God have changed drastically.  It has caused me to confront my limitations and the limitations of others in a way that has been incredibly freeing.  Thank you for all that you do.

H.L.

I bought three of your courses a couple months ago and they have changed my life and without question saved my marriage.

O.V.

[After listening to a Room for Two episode], we made a breakthrough!  We are no longer stuck, and our relationship is joyfully moving forward.  Listening to the podcast opened up our communication, and it feels like a lot of trust has been restored.  ...   I have always loved Jennifer's podcasts and classes, but listening to these coaching sessions has helped me really understand what needs changing and how to make those changes.  Jennifer has helped my marriage, but as I'm learning and changing, it's helping all aspects of my life.
E.G.

...For the first time I'm starting to see myself in a more real way and it hurts and is sobering, but it's also the first time I've really felt like 1) I know what's going on, and 2) what I can do about it. Those two conundrums eluded me for many years. Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge with us, and for being a real person when training us.

J.C.
About Dr. Jennifer

About Dr. Jennifer

Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is a well-respected relationship & sexuality coach with a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology. She teaches online personal and sexual development courses and is the host of Room for Two, a popular sex & intimacy podcast.

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Upcoming Live Events

In addition to online courses, Dr. Finlayson-Fife also hosts live versions of her courses. Tickets to these events typically sell out weeks in advance, so get yours as soon as possible.

For Couples
2024 Couples' Tour - Spain and Southern France!

2024 Couples' Tour - Spain and Southern France!

April 21 - May 1, 2024

During this immersive 10-day experience, we'll explore the beautiful and historic sites of Barcelona and travel through the picturesque and diverse landscapes of Southern France, all while learning important life and marriage-changing principles directly from Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife.

Join us for this unforgettable tour of Spain and Southern France--it's an experience that you and your spouse will never forget!

Click HERE for tickets!

For Couples
2024 Couples' Tour - Italy & Switzerland

2024 Couples' Tour - Italy & Switzerland

July 10 - 20, 2024

During this immersive 10-day experience, we'll explore the beautiful northern region of Italy and travel up through the picturesque and diverse landscapes of Switzerland and France, all while learning important life and marriage-changing principles directly from Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife.

Join us for this unforgettable tour of Italy and Switzerland--it's an experience that you and your spouse will never forget!

You can learn more about this trip and secure your spot by clicking HERE.

For Women
The Art of Desire Women's Retreat in Oregon!

The Art of Desire Women's Retreat in Oregon!

September 25 - 28, 2024 Hillsboro, OR

The Art of Desire Retreat is a challenging, fun, and life-changing 4-day event! 

This immersive experience will give you a new understanding of your desires, sexuality, spirituality, and self that will open up entirely new possibilities and foster greater self-confidence in all realms of your life.

For Couples
Two-Part Couples' Retreat In Oregon!

Two-Part Couples' Retreat In Oregon!

October 24 - 30, 2024 Hillsboro, OR

Join Dr. Finlayson-Fife this October for a life- and marriage-transforming experience!  

During this week-long immersive retreat, you will come to understand what interferes with friendship and passion in your relationship, and what steps you can take to create meaningful and lasting change!

For Men
The Art of Loving Retreat - St. George, Utah

The Art of Loving Retreat - St. George, Utah

November 7 - 9, 2024 Central, UT

The Art of Loving Retreat is a challenging, fun, and life-changing 3-day event! 

This immersive experience will give you a new understanding of your desires, sexuality, spirituality, and self that will open up entirely new possibilities and foster greater self-confidence in all realms of your life.

Latest Blog Posts

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    Dr. Jennifer's Thoughts on Cherishing

    Cherishing our marriage partner is a powerful way to increase the happiness and well-being in a marriage. It makes couples more resilient during hard times, and it's a powerful way to increase our own happiness! What does it mean to cherish? To cherish is to actively value a spouse. It means recognizing and appreciating all the many good things they bring into our lives. We cherish when we openly express gratitude, letting them know what they mean to us. But we also cherish as a way of living. Cherishing is a way of viewing the person who has chosen to spend their life with us. To cherish is t...

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  • Dr. Jennifer's Thoughts on Gratitude

    Dr. Jennifer's Thoughts on Gratitude

    Gratitude is a form of receiving–a powerful way to take in and acknowledge the beauty and love that is all around us. This is why it is such an antidote to unhappiness. Despite the adversity and pain that are woven into our lives, we all have genuine blessings to be grateful for—realities that we are not entitled to that make our lives richer than they would otherwise be.

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  • Want Versus Desire  [Podcast Transcript]

    Want Versus Desire [Podcast Transcript]

    This is the transcript of Dr. Finalsyon-Fife's interview with the Stoic Dad podcast. During the episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife discusses the difference between higher and lower desires, the important distinction between wants and desires, productive and unproductive suffering, as well as mature masculinity, and the dynamics of attraction.

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